Ive been Super busy, since taking on these kids for the Summer. I have been, teaching them about respect,honesty,obedience. Yes they fight, and bicker..ah well they are kids.
But, I have a questions for all you Mother's about self defense!
I sometimes notice, and hear (tattletailing) that Daniel being mean to Mason! Liike Daniel was trying to Wrestle with Mason, and Mason started to whine, I said to Mason, if he doesnt hear your words, get him back! So, Mason started to wrestle on Daniel, and I might say, I didnt think my Son, had it in him...After a few neat moves, Daniel decided he didnt want to wrestle with him anymore.( nothing bad, it was totally supervised, and conner was taking a nap)So that kina fizzled out, and they never had tried it again.
I have taught Mason , that he needs to stick up for himself, by instilling a 123 method.
1. Use your words, and look them in the eye, so that they know you mean buisness! And tell them "You hurt me, Please Stop!
2. If they do it again, Tell the adult in charge, what is happening, and what you said to whomever the first time whatever happened!
3. If whomever is still doing whatever you don't like, Do it back, to the whomever. You may get caught, and get in trouble, but can say I tried being nice, then I asked someone for help, then I have had enough!
I never had to worry about this until, kindergarten creeped up, due to all the great kids we associate with, and the parents are on top of their kids. So nothing has ever came up. But Kindergarten is a Jungle, and you don't know who they are going to be associating with. (Just so that you know, I do not condone Fighting at all, and the first 2 methods involve walking away both times, but some kids still do it, and I do not want my child to be bullied as well I don't want him to be a bully, and I can't really see Mason as a bully, because he has personality) but I want to Mason to know that if need be, then he can.
My mom said Im in the wrong! i DO NOT, due to I will no longer be supervising my child,to counteract whatever is happening, and I can't alwyas rescue my Baby out of everything, neither!
What is your Opinion? I want to hear the Truth, the Whole truth. Do you think Im wrong in Teaching Mason to Defend himself???
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Kari,
First I'll tell you what Jason said since he's a boy. I told him about Daniel/Mason and your 1-2-3 method. He listened till I finished and said, "That's perfect! I think she has the perfect plan. A child needs to know they can defend themselves - it's how they cope.
My thoughts are the same. I am really impressed, and I think it's wonderful that, as a mom, you are teaching your son how to be a boy!
Like you, I don't condone fighting — but sometimes, as a very last resort, it has to be done.
As a former childhood semi-bully, I can tell you that once kids fought back with confidence (either with words or their hands), I moved on.
I hate to think about being that way. If someone treated my child the way I treated some of the kids I knew, I think my head would spin off. I was just a meanie!
As for your mom, I have a strict policy that I follow anytime someone tells me my childrearing is wrong: smile and ignore.
Smile and ignore! You are the mommy!
Becki, you crack me up so good!!!
This is a toughie. What about turn the other cheek? How do we teach our boys to be men, and at the same time, teach them the biblical principles that Jesus doesn't want us to stand up for our own rights, but to always do good to others and let Him take vengeance righteously?
And how do we handle it when it may be their well-being or their lives at stake?
I'm gonna have to think about this one.
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